The Client

After many messages and weeding out the douchebags of POF, I received a message from a 35 year old man who had the friendliest smile I could imagine.  All his pictures screamed "I'm a nice guy."  We messaged back and forth and realized we had more in common than we didn't.  I was excited to meet this person in hopes that, if nothing else, I could make a new friend.

I made sure everything he said checked out online.  I told my Mom and my friend Mandy where I was going and off I went to meet "The Client".  He was already seated at the table when I arrived.  For first time daters, let the guy show up first.  You can always come up with some excuse why you're going to be a few minutes later:  you got pulled over, you had to stop for gas, you needed to run to the ATM, you got a work email that needed to be answered,  your kids needed something dropped off a their Dad's (yes, I have a million excuses).

When I walked in I was greeted with the same smile I saw in the pictures.  He was exactly how he described himself.  The conversation started with small talk and then we got into the history of our divorces.  It was January when this meeting took place.  He had gotten divorced in October.  Three months out of the relationship is a little too new for me, but I listened to his story.  He referred to his ex as "his wife".  Red flag #1.  He got emotional talking about the divorced and the circumstances leading up to his divorce. Red flag #2.  He still had attachments to her that he couldn't let go.  Red Flag #3.  So, then I became the therapist.  I explained to him how I coped with my ex husband leaving and after three hours of me playing Dr. Online Dating, I had to leave.

The last thing you want to do is be fresh out of a marriage and meeting someone at Stevie Tomato's and essentially have a break down about what happened that caused you to be sitting in front of me.

This online dating wasn't going well.... NEXT!