Epilogue

After two years of arguing, mounds of papers, hiring and firing of lawyers, hours of mediation and thousands of dollars in attorney's fees it was a phone call on a Monday morning from the secretary at my attorney's office to announce that I was officially divorced that ended this saga.  I thanked her for the information.  She told me to go celebrate.  I assured her I would and as I hung up the phone I realized I had no feelings of happiness or remorse about the news I was just given. 

You see, I was "divorced" back in November of 2011 when He sat across from me on the lanai and told me he didn't want to be married any more.  That's when my marriage was over.  It was that night that I found Her picture on his phone and it was then my marriage was irretrievably broken.  It was all those nights that I would call from work and he would be on the phone with her but lie and say he was talking to someone else at eleven o'clock at night.  It was the phone calls to her and me screaming to leave my family alone but she never hearing a word of what I said.  My marriage was over when He stood in the garage of our home and told me he was in love with Her and all the other things he said to me that repeatedly tore my heart into shreds.  I didn't need a judge or a lawyer or two years and a Final Judgement to tell me my marriage was broken.

The day I signed my Special Interrogatories, I had to answer if my marriage was irretrievably broken and then give a brief explanation as to why.  Did it matter at that point?  I had gotten all the way to the final settlement, did it really matter why I was there? Regardless of what I put in that explanation box would it have made a difference in the judge's decision on the Final Settlement?  My lawyer filled in in for me:  "Alienation of Affection".  Essentially, he had an affair.

With it all said and done now, I am moving on with my life.  I am going to date and see how that goes.  The next part of this blog just might be some pretty funny stories about these first dates that I go on.  Stay tuned!